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Mice Net : February 2009
business coaching and life goals reaching business STORY BY PETER BLISS Peter continues his countdown to the number one strategy for reaching your goals. 8 CONTINUE TO WORK ON YOURSELF – KEEP GROWING AND LEARNING You can’t really change anyone but yourself – even if you are the boss or the parent! So keep reading, keep doing courses, keep watching and listening and learning from others. Be prepared to challenge yourself – get therapy even. I’ve tried many types - rebirthing, counseling, and psychotherapy. I’ve had colonic irrigations, done yoga and meditation retreats, tried all sorts of fasting, listened to the best business gurus, spoken to priests, worked in homeless shelters, spent time alone. I’ve learnt more in the last decade than I did in the first four decades of my life, and I’m continuing and will keep doing so well into my sixth. Try new things, have an open mind, be a bit adventurous and take the odd risk. If you don’t ask you don’t get – if you don’t try new things you might miss out on something amazing! And the whole point of all this sort of stuff is not necessarily even to change yourself but to really get to know the real you. 7 BE GRATEFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE RIGHT NOW Have you ever stopped to consider how lucky you are right now? You are probably richer in opportunity, spirit, friendship and even financially than most people in the world can ever imagine in their wildest dreams! So take time to appreciate it every day. I go for a fast walk around the Sydney foreshore each morning and there is one particularly beautiful spot where I make sure I stop just to take it all in and remind myself how lucky I am. Yes I have issues and baggage like everyone, but I try and continually put everything into perspective. I work in a fantastic industry, work with some amazingly creative and brilliant clients, and have some very good relationships… which leads me to the next point. 6 ARE YOU A MAINLY POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE-TYPE PERSON? This might take some honest analysis – and you might need to 76 mice.net hear it from an outsider or friend - but to be totally blunt about it, you are probably the biggest stumbling block if you are not happy and achieving your goals in life or business. Do you focus on someone’s weaknesses, do you always judge and criticise, or do you focus on opportunities and strengths. Can you make a really long list right now of all the good things going on in your life and work? Try it. Or is a bigger list all the things wrong and that you don’t like? If your second list is bigger then you might really need some professional help. 5 BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND YOUR OWN ABILITIES I have four kids and one of my favourite books both as a child and to read to my kids when they were younger was the story of The Little Red Caboose. His mantra when confronted with a huge physical challenge was to chant “I think I can, I think I can”. Our beliefs about ourselves are a huge determining factor as to what and where we end up in life and business. Back yourself, make decisions, go with your gut feel, trust yourself that everything will be OK – think that you can! 4 DON’T FORGET TO BREATHE I took breathing for granted for 43 years. I didn’t realise how important it was until I stopped one night – started choking, started hyperventilating - froze with fear as I lay helpless on my bed feeling the breath slowly draining from my body. The result of years and years of pent up anger, guilt, frustration and unrelieved stress. The result of years and years of keeping true thoughts, feelings and emotions in – of swallowing them instead of releasing them. I had become a short, shallow, mouth breather – not even realising that I could take control: that I could control my breathing; that I could slow it down; that I could control my central nervous system. I did not realise that I could control my anxious thoughts, my stress, my tension, through learning to control the breath. I did not realise